Actually, people do care. In fact, they'd be more than a little hyped by the prospect of listening to other people's troubles/contemplations/gossip as an excuse for a DNM. Problem is, why tell when you just cbf explaining everything............... and also run the risk of getting judged. Badly judged.

P.S. Don't fall into the trap of buying intimacy/friendship/attention with pieces of information they're not supposed to know.